The Jane Austen Insult Guide for Well-Bred Women: Pairs nicely with a cup of civili-tea!

Jane Austen Insult Guide for Well-Bred Women - civilized responses in place of eyerolls & ordinary digs.

Although Jane Austen wrote only six novels in her lifetime, there have been volumes of volumes written about her. From biographies to literary analysis to, most certainly, Austen at tea, the books related to the author of Pride and Prejudice could fill libraries. Humble as it is, such books fill mine. But one genre that's gained traction in recent years is humor:  mining the novelty from the celebrated Regency novelist. The latest in that category is "The Jane Austen Insult Guide for Well-Bred Women".  It goes where others have gone before, but with the twist of applying Austen quips and observations to modern-day situations and annoyances.

Written/compiled by Emily Reed and just published in 2025, this guidebook offers Jane's biting wit and sarcasm in place of the oh-so-common eyeroll or kneejerk admonition "are you crazy?".  For example, under the title, "When she auditions for reality TV", a quote from Pride and Prejudice that fits nicely:  Let us hope therefore, that her being there may teach her her own insignificance.  

In the Insults for Grating Houseguests chapter, when guests consider extending their stay, the guide pulls from Emma for hosts ready to see them gone:  It was a delightful visit; - perfect, in being much too short.

Two books, published prior to "Insult Guide" share much of the same content.

While this is an amusing collection culled from Jane's novels and letters, it isn't the first of its kind. At least two more that came before - and in my possession - are "The Wicked Wit of Jane Austen" from Dominique Enright, 2002, and "What Would Jane Do?", Potter Style/Random House, 2014. The latter is similarly-sized and meters out singular quotes per page, but the former is much more robust with multiple excerpts displayed on all its 160 pages. All books subdivide Jane's words into chapters and - not surprisingly - there's a great deal of overlap. The "delightful visit" quote is just one of the many that appears in all three tiny tomes -  the middle of that intersecting Venn diagram bulging in shared references.

The Jane Austen Insult Guide, like its predecessors, isn't a scholarly text nor does it intend to be. It serves as a user-friendly introduction to Austen's prose or an amusing and comforting refresh for those of us who have long been Jane devotees. 

The Jane Austen Insult Guide, as well as most things in life, pairs nicely with a cup of civili-tea. 

I found the book a mix of sharp wit wrapped in frivolity - like Masterpiece Theater meets reality TV.

Disagree? Let's turn to Sense and Sensibility for wisdom:  "We must allow for difference of taste". 

To all this, may we suggest, a generous cup of civili-tea. 

Return to Whistling Kettle: A big win for Team Earl Grey in Troy, NY

Team Earl Grey loves Whistling Kettles Earl Grey Matcha Latte

 Our recent visit to Troy, New York, was not only to take in on-location filming of HBO's The Gilded Age, but to make a stop at our favorite tea room in the Capital Region:  The Whistling Kettle. Two years ago, we found so much to love at this charming tea venue:  a scone-which that defies traditional tea etiquette (you CAN eat it like a Big Mac!) and a delightful afternoon tea, served on the customary three-tiered tray, that you don't have to reserve 24-hours in advance. This year, we've found even more to love:  Earl Grey Matcha Latte. Another win for Team Earl Grey!

Becoming Team Earl Grey:

For those who know me well, have joined me for afternoon tea and/or hang in for at least the first few minutes of my describing my latest tea outing, know I am a big fan of Earl Grey - the black tea blend with bergamot (or similarly tasting citrusy fruit). To me, it's light, but with body, and a great accompaniment to both savories and sweets. 

Although it's a pretty standard blend, a lot of tea makers offer variations, and I've sampled many. For example, Creamy Earl Grey adds vanilla and Russian Earl Grey mixes in orange and lemongrass. I have several in my tea pantry with fun names like Earl Grey-er and Triple Earl Grey and even BTS' own blend (soon to be relaunched!) labeled "Earl Grey Delight", but, bottom line, it's my go-to drink.  

Whistling Kettle with family, 2024

And, while always being "Team Earl Grey", it became official last month when I received a pink baseball cap in the mail  - a Mother's Day gift from son, Matt, and daughter-in-law Jenna (the same folks who joined us at The Whistling Kettle in 2024). In bold navy script, "Earl Grey" is embroidered on top. I am now a cap-wearing member of the classic tea blend.

More to love at The Whistling Kettle:

This week, I walked into The Whistling Kettle with my new chapeau. Our server quickly remarked, with an understanding smile, "I believe I know what you would like to drink. . . "

True - I wanted Earl Grey, but on a hot June evening in New York, The Whistling Kettle's "Season Sips" called to me. The Earl Grey Matcha Latte picture featured on their outdoor promotional sign lured me in with its cold brew claims and creamy flavored top and matcha center image. 

Earl Grey Matcha Latte sign lures Team Earl Grey 

I learned the ingredients are Matcha, Earl Grey, Earl Grey syrup, cream, milk and sugar. Our server said they tested various ratios and components over numerous tasting sessions and this recipe won. After the first sip, I understood why.

The Whistling Kettle lists the recipe on their website and you can also purchase some of the ingredients from them as well. I'm currently hovering over my Whistling Kettle on-line shopping cart. I plan to make this at home, although it does take a bit more time than I typically like to stay in the kitchen for prep. (If only my Breville could put this all together. . . ).

I do believe, however, it's worth the effort and this is the perfect time of year, back in Michigan, to enjoy this kind of Earl Grey on the patio.

Whistling Kettle had us at scone-wich. Now, with Earl Grey Matcha Latte, it's given us even more reasons to sing its praises.

May we add, hat's off to The Whistling Kettle. With or without our pink cap, you know what we like. 

Watching Gilded Age in action: On location in Troy, NY where Gilded Age, Season 4 is currently filming!

At "St. Denis Hotel" on Troy, NY's Second Street, watching Gilded Age, Season 4, filming on location.

 

The Gilded Age, Season 4, is currently filming in New York's Capital Region and Barb's Tea Service was there to see it in action!

This week we were in Troy, New York, to witness some of the cast and crew of HBO's Gilded Age creating movie magic. Although it was the final few days in this location, and folks we met at our favorite Troy tea room, The Whistling Kettle, told us stars Christine Baransky and Cynthia Nixon were in town last week, we were still thrilled to take in some of the production before they left this charming historic stand in for late 19th-century Manhattan.

With Kathryn Sheehan of Hart Cluett

With family on Troy, NY's Second Street

Return to Troy:

Just two years ago, husband, Chris and I were in Troy and took in the Gilded Age tour with our son, Matt, and daughter-in-law, Jenna. The tour is hosted by the Hart Cluett Museum (one of the homes seen in The Gilded Age) and this is where we met Kathryn Sheehan, who, along with being the museum's Executive Director is also Rensselaer County and Troy City Historian. 

At the time, Season 3, was coming back to Troy later in the summer, but Kathryn had already served as a consultant to the production crew for earlier seasons.  We didn't know on that visit we'd have the great fortune to be back in almost two years to the day and take in some actual filming ourselves.

Something is going on at the "St. Denis Hotel".

A bit of serendipi-tea put us within a half-day drive to the Capital Region this month. We had planned a trip to Kingston, Ontario to visit extended family beginning of June. I had read about some Gilded Age on-location filming taking place around the same time and contacted my insider contact, Kathyrn, to find out the scoop. She confirmed, The Gilded Age, would still be filming by our projected arrival in Troy.

A call to action!

We were not disappointed. Shortly after our arrival, we camped out across from the Hart Cluett Museum - on the same street you'll see the familiar "homes" of Mamie Fish and Aurora Fane - and observed two scenes being shot. The ratio of set-up time to actual filming seemed to be about an hour of prep for five minutes of recording. 

Alley next to Hart Cluett house (white building). One hour of prep for a few minutes of film.

The first scene was in front of the "St. Denis Hotel", where a small gang of well-suited gentlemen approached a group of working-class folks seated at tables outside. We heard these were "Pinkerton" men.  They later walked down the street and into a corner restaurant.

Trash talking:

The next scene took place in the alleyways between the Hart Cluett Museum and a neighboring building. And, here's where we do some trash talking. . . literally.

Setting up dolly on track.

Crew member throwing trash in alleyway.

For about 90 minutes, from our stakeout spot on the curb across the street, we watched the crew set up the track along one alley for the dolly. On the adjoining alley, one set member tossed rumpled pieces of paper along the path to give the trashy-look, while another guy took to a ladder to hang out clothes on a line.

One actor coming to make-up for touch-up.

Make-up artists were called to meet the actors behind the alleys for touch-ups. Then, more crew ran back and forth on each alley to pace the shot, finally putting the two actors (one in a suit, one in casual attire) within the gates. Two more run-throughs and then we heard the word we'd be waiting for "Action"!

There were at least a half-dozen more takes of these two gents walking past the side of the Hart Cluett house and conducting some business at the end of the narrow walkway. 

That's a wrap. . . for now:

What were they up to?  We'll only know once Season 4 begins - and we're hearing it should be end of this year or early 2027.

Front row seat to filming.

More action at "home" of Aurora Fane.

              

Of course, we'll be paying special attention to when the Pinkertons arrive on the scene. Perhaps one may catch a glimpse of a time-traveler gawking on the stoop across the alley, wearing an "Earl Grey" baseball cap and ready to spill the tea. (Whistling Kettle or home tea table).

Time traveler in pink Earl Grey cap.

For more of Troy, New York, see our blog post:  The Whistling Kettle (Aug.2024)

For tea time in the Gilded Age, see our sub stack article: Teatime in the Gilded Age would keep you hopping (June. 2025)

Revisiting Ferndale's Purple Door Tea Room: Like a dear neighbor, it's welcoming and a lot of fun!

The Purple Door, like a dear neighbor and good friend, is welcoming, reliable and a lot of fun.

 

Four years ago, I visited the Purple Door Tea Room for the first time and this month - almost to the day - I returned with great neighbor and friend, Therese. A lovely place to unwind and catch up over tea, I was pleasantly surprised that not much had changed in the Ferndale tearoom:  menu, decor and service all reassuringly the same.

Tea selection begins with a wide choice of tea bag blends, presented in a fine tea caddy, as well as half a dozen loose tea choices. We both selected the loose green tea mixed with fruits and florals. Delivered to us in individual teapots with a gold steeper attached (to be removed once optimum steeping has been reached). The tea - a stray from my go-to Earl Grey - was fabulous. 

Afternoon tea fare includes cucumber sandwiches and chicken salad on apple slices. 

The tea fare is almost identical to what we had four years ago - including the flower-shaped cucumber sandwiches and chicken salad on apple slices. The scones were lemon poppy and those, with the grand finale, carrot cake and fresh fruit compote were true standouts.

Decor is pretty and colorful. 

Over ten years ago, I wrote a book featuring twelve favorite Michigan tea rooms. Unfortunately, many have closed or offer limited teas. While the time has come to literally open a new chapter on that tiny tome, it's nice to know that the Purple Door is still here, doing what it does best. Like a dear neighbor and good friend, it's welcoming, reliable and a lot of fun.

We'll be back again, but will not wait so long for our next visit. 

For our first visit to The Purple Door Tea Room, see our blog Barb's Tea Shop: The Purple Door Tea Room: Delightful Afternoon Tea in Ferndale (May, 2022)

The Purple Door Tea Room is located at 701 Livernois Avenue, Ferndale, Michigan. It's open Tuesday thru Saturday 11:00 am to 5:00 pm, Sunday, 12:00 pm to 5:00 pm. Menu selections range from $15 to $35. For more information, visit their website:  ThePurpleDoor.com

Tea tables are turned! We are guests, we are guests - tea is poured, scones adored and the hosts will do the rest!

In May, podcaster tables were turned:  BTS were guests of Your Speaking Matters

Tea tables were turned last month between Barb's Tea Service and friends and fellow podcasters, Rik and Carol D. In two years of podcasting, BTS did something we had never done before - we were guests! 

My husband, co-host and "arm candy", Chris, and I started podcasting in April of 2024 at Lake Orion's ONTV. Within a month, we invited Rik and Carol to be our guests. We've had many a travel and tea adventure together in twenty-some years, so it was a perfect fit to have them join us in the studio to not only share some of those memories, but to also talk about a passion of theirs:  public speaking.

Freshly baked scones, with homemade clotted cream served with tea.

Rik and Carol have been involved in Toastmasters for years, managing their own local chapter, Confident Communicators. They have hosted many events with this organization including last fall's, "So You Want to do a Podcast?" where Chris and I were panelists with other podcasters. 

We know at least one set of folks in attendance who took the next step - Rik and Carol! 

Six months ago, our friends started their own podcast at ONTV Studio, "Your Speaking Matters". In their series, they give tips on public speaking and leadership skills. They've interviewed several members of Toastmasters who serve in various roles. 

May 2024, Rik and Carol were guests on Barb's Tea Service Podcast.

A few weeks ago, Rik and Carol invited us to be on their podcast to talk about our journey in the studio:  the "why" and "how" as well as what we've learned. Although we strive to improve after every studio session, we have, after 80 recordings, found out what works well for us and what doesn't. (Our first few podcasts are still out there, should anyone need reminding of our very humble beginnings. 😄).

We are guests, we just talk and let the others do the rest. 

But, this wasn't just a podcast recording - it was an afternoon tea time as well. Rik brought in his freshly baked lemon scones with homemade clotted cream. Both were fabulous.  However, that wasn't all. To add to this, our podcasting amigos, brought freshly brewed Yunnan Gold tea. 

To borrow from Lumiere and Mrs. Potts:

We are guests, we are guests, 

Talking podcasts and a fest,

The tea's been poured, the scones adored,

We just talk and let the others do the rest. . . 

 We enjoyed turning the tables - especially when scones, cream and tea are on them. 

Return to Shipshewana after a quarter of a century: Amish hospitality, buggy rides and tea.

 Shishewana, 2002. (1) Rob & Rachel & buggy. (2) Flea Mkt with my Mom & Rachel

This month, the "Sistahs", aka your humble blogger and my cousins, Dianne and Kathy, planned a trip to Shipshewana for our "Spring Adventure". Although it's never a challenge to have a grand time with these ladies, we once again raised the bar on our quarterly excursion. We traveled to Amish country in Indiana and filled our days with a buggy ride, delicious dinners, in-town shopping and a walk through the famous flea market that just opened for the season in May.

Sistahs:  Shipshewana Bound, May 2026

Returning to Shipshewana after two decades:

Although neither of my Sistahs had been to Shipshewana before, I had visited almost a quarter of a century ago. In 2002, my son, Rob, just shy of 18 years old, went on a camping trip with some friends in Indiana. On their return home, Rob was pulled over for speeding (and, for the record, it wasn't just five miles over) and given a ticket. Although I don't remember all the details, I know the "punishment" required my son to come back to an Indiana small court to pay restitution with family representation.

In the lemons-into-lemonade  category, I told Rob if I was to take a day off work to bring him to Indiana, he was going to have to endure a Shipshewana side-trip, complete with a buggy ride and quilt shopping. I don't know what Rob feared most, but he agreed to the terms and we headed to Indiana with my Mom and daughter, Rachel for the post-court fun.

Honestly, the courtroom was more Mayberry than big city intimidating. The judge was friendly and understanding and offered up some sage advice.  Rob understood.

After that, it was a buggy ride, fresh dairy ice cream and the flea market. We shopped for quilts, baskets and dolls. You know, the things that an almost 18-year old boy dreams of.  :)   To this day, Rob is not a speeder. 

(Top picture, from 2002:  time of my first digital camera and scrapbook software - spent more time on

 those albums that I care to admit. However, good for a few fun memories.)

Buggy ride with Thunder in the background.

Sistahs Shipshewana

I was excited to return to Amish country with my Sistahs, take in the region's cooking, crafting and, yes, the buggy ride!

 Shipshewana Flea Market, more "traditional" flea market than I remembered.

A few things have changed in over two decades:  more hotels, more restaurants, more stores, but the flea market was different, too. Much of the handcrafted items have moved to retail stores in town and the flea market is more of a traditional flea market:  thrift stores, novelty items, T-shirt vendors and assorted odds and ends (emphasis on "odds"). But we did find an amazing tea vendor, Indian Jo's, and we all purchased a bag of their loose tea blends.

The highlights:

Horse drawn buggy ride:  Our guide, Emmet, graciously allowed photographs and welcomed questions. He held the reigns of Thunder - our literal horsepower - and guided us through town and country. 

Blue Gate Garden Inn, front lobby. 

Blue Gate Garden Inn:  Although the weather did not allow us to take advantage of our patio room, everything else had much to recommend. There's a pool, a breakfast room, and a bustling campus of activities, including a theater for the performing arts. 

Blue Gate Restaurant:  Just down the road from the Inn, is this welcoming restaurant with what I'd term Amish comfort food:   noodles, meatloaf, mashed potatoes and, my favorite, absolutely delicious fried chicken. (For those who have visited Frankenmuth, a Bavarian-inspired town, in Michigan, this venue has much of the same vibe - large portions, great service and homey decor.)

Indiana Jo's tea: One of the great finds at the flea market. See more in our blog earlier this month: Indian Jo's Tea.

 
There's more to discover in Shipshewana and the playhouse has a variety of programs throughout the year. I'll be back - but, won't wait another two decades. :) 

Indiana Jo's Tea: A Shipshewana Flea Market Find!

 

Indian Jo's Coffee and Tea at the Shipshewana Flea Market

Shipshewana Flea Market opened for the season this month, and The Sistahs (aka, my two awesome cousins, Dianne, and Kathy and your humble blogger), headed south from our western Michigan meet-up point and drove south to Indiana. As always, we were ready for adventure and treasures, and it didn't take long before we found fortune in Booth 401, home to Indiana Jo's Tea.

Their space is a coffee/tea bar-meets-archeological-finds. Bright red tea packages share space with skulls and skeletons, a place where Indiana Jones - presumed inspiration for this Indiana tea and coffee shop - would feel right at home. And, after taking in the aroma of some of Indiana Joe's tea, we did, too.

All tea blends had small glass jars for viewing and sniffing. Although all were enticing, we each picked one that called to us. I chose Raven-wood Peach with my son, Rob, in mind. He's a tea enthusiast and enjoys a fruity blend.

Brewing up Raven-wood Peach, taste to match its aroma.

Once back to our home in Michigan, Rob, joined us for tea. Opening the package, he took in a whiff and declared, "if this tastes as good as it smells, it's going to be amazing". 

And, it was. 

The blend is made up of black tea with peach, apricot, papaya, blackberry and lime leaves and calendula and sunflower pedals. 

Raven-wood Peach strikes a nice balance with black tea, florals, and fruit, but, as the name implies, peach is definitely the star. 

Packaging is convenient, attractive and practical with easy zip closure.

Another great feature of the tea is its packaging. The zip lock seal is on the front and it's convenient, attractive and practical. 

We're looking forward to trying more of Indiana Jo's teas. Though Shipshewana is a fun excursion, it's not short trip for some of us. Fortunately, they have a website for future purchases. I believe our next try will be Temple of Bloom, most fitting for Indiana Jo's. 

Don't sweat the retirement wardrobe: The MET validates the comfy.

Part of The Met's Costume Art Exhibit, the aging body, sophisticated, not declining

When there's more casual than business casual in your closet, you may be retired. Sweat pants and hoodies are not only comfy, but fashion to be acknowledged. Just this month, The New York Metropolitan Museum of Art put the spotlight on senior leisure ware, and we applaud the acknowledgement as we slip into our velcro-strapped sneakers and adjust our elastic waistband pants.

Earlier this month, the much-hyped Met Gala, where fashionistas and celebrities dress to an annual theme and climb the stairs of the grand Manhattan museum in red-carpet style, kicked off the "Costume Art" Exhibit. Unlike many of the elegant or elegantly outlandish attire of the Gala attendees,  "Costume Art" takes a step away from the "classic beauty" standards and looks at high fashion's often-ignored population including the "corpulent" and "the aging".  As reported in the Chicago Tribune/May 3, this is the most "consciously body-positive show the museum has attempted . . .[featuring] a group of new mannequins, based on real people with a wide variety of body types."

They point to the mannequin, in the aging body section, wearing an oversized gray hoodie with large lettering boasting, "I'm Retired. (This is as dressed up as I get)."

Pair your fashion sense with a cup of tea from Harney's The Met collection. 

My daughter-in-law, and lifelong New Yorker, Jenna, attended the current "Costume Art" exhibit and sent the proud hoodie-wearing retiree image to my husband, Chris, and me. After just blogging about another portrait embracing non-classic beauty standards at The Met, Too Real to be Liked? Mary Cassatt's Lady at the Tea Table without Filters, this comfortable and content retiree not only made me smile, but cheer the solidarity in the unconventional.

The aging body display shows "commonality - those things that unite us all. . . [it] seeks to reframe as a mode of sophistication rather than biological decline".

I'm rather fond of that outlook. And, though, I, too, enjoy sporting shapeless sweats whenever I can, I do try to rise to the occasion that requires heels, fascinators and - the biggie - a belt. 

While we're contemplating all this fashion, we recommend a cup of tea from one of Harney's The Met Collection.  One of our favorites is "Taste of British History", it's a take on classic Earl Grey, with black and green teas and bergamot oil. (You can purchase at The Met or Harney and Son's website.)  

The Costume Art Exhibit started May 10 and runs through January 10, 2027. Our next trip to NYC, I plan to visit The Met - what I wear there is TBD.  😉

Guild Chocolates Afternoon Tea: A real treasure in Petrolia, Ontario

Guild Chocolates Afternoon Tea, Chef Jacyln (center) created this delicious and beautiful event.

Last weekend, we once again traveled over the Blue Water Bridge into Canada for some gourmet treats, but this time it was for a full afternoon tea. We were joined by good friends and fellow podcasters, Rik and Carol D., who also share our foodie and tea passions. (Dare we say, "tea nerds"?) 

In April, we visited Guild Chocolates and it was love at first bite ('Guilded Age' of Gourmet Confections, April 22, 2026). We met owner, chocolatier and master chef, Jaclyn Sanders who told us about events she hosts throughout the year, including this month's afternoon tea. We signed up immediately and we are so glad we did. 

Because Jaclyn's shop is small, she hosts the events in a hall just a short drive from downtown. And although it’s a multi‑purpose space, Jaclyn transforms it with thoughtful, charming touches that elevate the entire experience.

Sweets and savories scrumptious works of art.

There are white tablecloths and napkins on every table which are set with an assortment of fine china teacups. A particularly delightful detail: every guest receives their own two‑tiered tray, beautifully arranged with scones, tea sandwiches, and desserts.

Add to this, a harpist who plays during the entire event. Incredible!

Of course, the main feature is the tea and tea fare and everything was as delicious as it was beautiful in presentation. Desserts and savories were miniature works of art, befitting of Chef Jaclyn's degree in Art History. 

With fellow foodies and tea nerds. Harp player behind us.

Included in the savories were a smoked salmon tartlet and a generously portioned coronation chicken sandwich. Among goodies on the top tier, were a tartlet, lemon goat cheese mousse and a mango brownie.

The grand finale on wheels:  assorted chocolate creations on a trolly cart. All of this was accompanied by tea of choice (six in total) in individual teapots. 

We also met other guests and shared tea tales and love of Guild Chocolates (Hello, Tracy!)

No surprise - we can't wait to go back!

For our "live reel" at the tea, check out our video on our YouTube channel! Thanks to Rik D., for bringing his recording equipment.

"Live" at Guild Chocolates Afternoon Tea

Duck Sh*t Tea: We tasted the chocolate, time to taste the tea with the odd (duck) name from Cultivate Taste!

Cultivate Taste's Duck Sh*t Oolong

Last month, we sampled chocolate made from Duck Sh*t tea (Duck Sh*t Tea and Chocolate). Tasting the tea was next and, after a bit of a search, we found some - and not so far from home. Our Duck Sh*t tea comes from Cultivate Taste, located in Green Bay, Wisconsin. 

This is an oolong tea, and per Cultivate Taste's website, the tea comes from tea bushes which are over 80 years old. It is lightly oxidized and the leaves are long and mostly green in color.

In our April blog, we talked about the unusual tea name and its origin stories, one of which focused on the farmer who cultivated this tea. It was so good, he wanted to detract competitors, so he gave it an unpleasant moniker to deter unwelcomed visitors. 

An oolong tea, leaves are partially oxidized.

After brewing up Cultivate Taste's Duck Sh*t tea, we now understand why the farmer was concerned about potential theft. It is delicious!

We found it flowery and pleasantly grassy with hints of fruit - smooth and well-balanced. We brought out the glass teapot and cups as the tea's pretty amber color adds to the whole tea experience.

Excited to find such a great tea in a neighboring mid-west state, we learned not only about the teas offered from the company's website, but some of their backstory as well.

 A little about Cultivate Taste

Cultivate Taste Tea prides itself as a luxury, single-origin loose-leaf tea company dedicated to showcasing tea as an agricultural product of place, much like fine wine or specialty coffee.

Every tea they offer is sourced directly from small, quality-focused producers across Asia. In addition, they do not create blends, add flavorings or sell novelty teas.

Founder Jennifer Nowicki is a Certified Tea Specialist (Specialty Tea Institute, NYC) with over three decades of experience in the gourmet and natural foods industry and nearly thirty years dedicated specifically to tea.

A quick check on their on-line store, Duck Sh*t tea is currently out of stock. We purchased the one ounce pack for $13.50 plus shipping. 

We're looking forward to trying more of Cultivate Taste's teas!

For more information, check out their website at cultivatetaste.com.

Color and taste add to a lovely tea time.

Too real to be liked? Mary Cassatt's Lady at the Tea Table without filters

Lady at the Tea Table, photo taken at my first visit to The Met

 

Today, selfies and group photos can quickly make their subjects prettier, thinner and younger with easy editing. Strategic crops can eliminate pounds and filters can erase wrinkles. But, for those whose portraits have been painted by famous artists who will not adjust the lens, what happens to the "rejects"? In the case of Mary Casssatt's Lady at the Tea Table, the painting was stashed away in the Impressionist's attic for years. 

Fortunately, Cassatt's longtime friend, Louisine Havemeyer, convinced her to eventually to take it out of hiding and donate it to the Met in 1923. It still resides in my favorite New York museum, and I first saw it up close and personal in 2019, the year my son, Matt, moved to Manhattan.

The Met's teapots crafted in Paul Revere's shop. Subject in photo may benefit from strategic editing. 

Cassatt (1844 - 1926), came from an affluent family in Pennsylvania, but spent much of her adult life in France. She became part of the changing art scene in Paris, and although not an over-night-success, she was invited by Edgar Degas to show her work with the Impressionists. In the Impressionist Exhibit of 1877, she displayed eleven works, some of which were criticized for colors that were too bright and portraits that were too accurate to be flattering to the subjects.

Those opinions were shared by the family of the subject in Lady at the Tea Table (1883-1885).  The "lady" was Mary Dickinson Riddle, first cousin of Cassatt's mother. Riddle's daughter had given Cassatt the blue, white and gold-trimmed tea set in the picture, and the artist painted the portrait in appreciation of the gift.

Riddle's daughter did not like the portrait, thinking Cassatt made her mother's nose too large. So, Cassatt stashed it in her attic for years.

There's a story that Riddle's family came forward to claim the portrait once it was out of hiding and on display at The Met. Cassatt's response - and I paraphrase here - "not a chance".

I'm glad I got the chance to view this lovely portrait and every time I return to The Met, I visit it again, along with the collection of teapots, Gilded Age furniture and silver tea accoutrements (including those from Paul Revere's shop). 

While we may not always like how the camera - or the artist - shows our authentic selves, maybe there's a lesson here to embrace "non-traditional beauty".  The Met website has a short video, "The Nose" produced in 2011 by Masha Turchinsky, then their Creative Producer, now CEO of Hudson River Museum. She takes pride in her prominent facial feature. Spoiler alert:  Lady at the Tea Table gets a mention.

Looking back at some of my photos taken at The Met, circa 2019, looks like I forgot to crop or apply filters, though the only editing I regularly apply is erasing the noise (people I don't know, Exit signs, etc).  Maybe Lady Visiting the Met can stay "as is".   😉

The Met's teapot collection

Another visit , NY couple at FLW home

                           

Sources:  The Met, Wikipedia and Everything Explained Today. Thanks to Pam & Quint for sharing their notes on a recent lecture from The Met on Cassatt and Morisot which included Lady at the Tea Table.

Eight Etiquette Rules for Trash Treasure Hunting: Though free and kicked to the curb, there's still proper protocol

Even trash treasure hunting requires good manners:  BTS provides the top eight!

 

Sorting through curbside trash can bring treasures, but don't forget your manners!

We've been recent recipients of gifts found on the curb:  earlier this year Royal Tara fine china and just this month an Emily Post's Etiquette book, 16th edition. While we weren't the shoppers, we were thrilled with the items as well as their price - or more accurately the lack of. Everything was free.

As we noted in this month's post , Where do you find your treasures. . .?, bargains can be found at the end of driveways after a non-depleting garage sale. That's not uncommon in suburban neighborhoods, but what about big cities? 

Turns out, the same principle applies, though the geography shifts. In New York City, boxes of “take me” items appear not only on curbs but on stoops as well. A familiar sight on many brownstone steps, these boxes offer an assortment of merchandise for the taking. During their daily walks, our favorite NYC couple, Matt and Jenna, often browse their neighborhood’s porch and curbside offerings. On one such jaunt, they found my etiquette tome.

While enjoying these freebies, we wondered: is there a proper protocol for curb shopping? It turns out there is — though Emily Post hasn’t covered it… yet.

Most of the etiquette for trash-treasure hunting — also known as “scrounging,” “curb-alerting,” or “freecycling” — comes from online community forums. The basic rules boil down to respect for property and safety. We sifted through comments like a seasoned scrounger digging through a freshly released stoop box and distilled the best good-manners guidance.

Top eight guidelines for the well-mannered scrounger.

1. Only take items on curb or stoop. Don't walk up to the house. Merch inside is off-limits, so no chance on getting the dining room chandelier.

2. Clean up rule. If you sort through a pile, restack items when you're done rooting. Keep the display as enticing as you found it.

3. Go one better! Be a good citizen and enhance #2., leaving the "store" neater than you found it. If the box has broken apart, even if you didn't break it, try to restore order as much as possible. 

4. Don't return items. This is "take -and keep - as is".  If you later decide you don't want what you "bought", keep in mind, curbside retail has no return policy. Consider setting up your own stoop box shop.

5. Signage. If there's a sign that says "FREE",  you're good to go. If there is no sign, but item or box is on the curb, that's a pretty safe bet it's okay to take. 

6. Don't confuse actual garbage with freescycling. If there are garbage bags wrapped up and, on the curb, assume it's true trash. Don't open the bags and dig through - it's unsanitary and dangerous. (But, really, does one need formal instructions to avoid such behavior?) 

7. Be fast, be quiet. Loitering and shouting are frowned upon unless you just found some fine china or an Emily Post Etiquette book. A modest "yahoo!" is acceptable.

8. Don't add items. Someone's curbside box is not a consignment shop. If you want to donate some of your things, get your own stoop container or give to Goodwill. They'd appreciate the drop off. 

For those who wish to partake in a trash treasure hunting, we wish you luck. No need for to bring a wallet, only your impeccable curbside manners are required.  😀💰

   

Mom's are like tea: Necessary every dang day!

Woman are like tea bags and Moms are like tea!

Elanor Roosevelt once said, "A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it's in hot water".

Not quite as famous - but perhaps just as profound - is a sentiment from a humble greeting card that also compares special women to tea:  "Mom's are like tea -   necessary every damn day."

Although the original card listed "coffee", my eldest son, Rob, made a swift edit, and replaced the java reference with his mother's favorite hot beverage.

Like tea, chocolate, flowers and family fun - every damn day!

I believe both aphorisms and though Eleanor Roosevelt's quote applies to all woman, I think our pithy greeting card casts a wider net as well.  "Moms" can be our mothers, grandmother, godmothers, or ladies who have come into one's life that also offer support, advice and love.

"Afternoon Tee" time with family earlier this year.

As I noted in a blog story first published in May of 2016, (Happy Mother's Day:  Make it one for the books). I was fortunate to have not only a wonderful mom, but I have the great fortune to be mom to three wonderful children (and, now, mother-in-law to two more!). 

Me & my Mom, ready to go anywhere if scheduled.

As for my own mom, she  and I were very close and enjoyed each other's company, although we differed in so many respects. My mom was a neat freak, with a schedule that was never departed from, even if something fun came along. I keep a clean enough house, but if you want to invite me for tea or shopping, I'll cancel the utensil drawer reorganization in a New York minute.

And though she's been gone for over twenty-five years, I still think of her daily (or, in the lingo of my greeting card, "every damn day" 😊) There are so many times, I wish I could call my mom and say, "you were right!", or, even at my advanced senior-discount-age , I'd desperately ask, "what should I do now?", because she would always know.

Mother's Day Brunch followed by an afternoon of games!

This Mother's Day, I received the "tea card", flowers, an Earl Grey baseball cap and two boxes of chocolate. I was feted with a brunch followed by an afternoon of family game time and Zoom with our favorite New Yorkers.  It was wonderful.

Go ahead - make my Earl Grey extra strong!

I have my own edits to my Mother's Day card:  Moms are like Earl Grey tea, chocolate, flowers, and family time - necessary every damn day.

And, as a card-carrying AARP member and a mom of over forty years, I'm very familiar with "hot water events".  So go ahead - make my Earl Grey extra strong!